Living on a Council Estate!

Whilst blogging with Mummy Pages I wrote a piece one month about my bringing my boys up on a Council Estate. It got a lot of feedback so I'm doing similar again. Not because I want lots of feedback but because it's something I feel very strongly about.
I moved to my present house when my two eldest boys were just 4 and 1. Having moved back home after a number of years in Co. Clare and a short spell in New York, my husband I had been renting a house in our local area for a few years. We had been placed on a waiting list for new Council housing as at that time we were both unemployed. Luck was on our side and in 1995 we were allocated a brand spanking new three bedroomed house in the village we were residing (and still reside today).
We moved in shortly after and life took a turn which I wasn't expecting.
Having grown up in a modest 4 bed bungalow in the countryside I had no understanding of council estate living or the like. So moving into this new house could only bring joy and happiness...right? Wrong!
It brought us a very comfortable place to live, warm, clean and spacious. It brought us the opportunity to settle and begin to build our family home. But it also brought us social segregation from many around. Living in a council estate gives others the right to judge you. Or so those others seem to think.
Fortunatley myself and my husband both came from strong independent backgrounds and both had good educations. But that didn't matter to others. It did matter to me. Having this behind me enabled me to grasp at my own confidence and self-esteem to get through many times when I felt frowned upon by others on the so called 'outside'. Those who lived in large, fancy houses. And those who probably wouldn't know the meaning of the word 'manners' if one threw it at them. But each and every one of my neighbours knew the word 'manners'. There was a mutual respect from everyone in the neighbourhood. Mind you that's not to say there weren't falling outs among neighbours, neighbourly disputes on many occasions, but those are all long forgotten about and put to rest. Doesn't everyone fall out now and again? I'm aware of people in neighbouring villages and towns who don't speak to their neighbour over silly issues. But of course we don't talk about them. They don't live in a council estate!
I can say that everyone in my street speak, greet and welcome each other on a daily basis. I still live in that same house, with the same neighbours and unfortunately still some of the same prejudice. I and my husband bought our house many years ago. At one time we contemplated selling up and moving out. We could buy in another estate in the village...or we could build a nice home in the country. But after thinking about it, we decided to stay where we were. There are neighbours all around where we can call if something is wrong. We can call in the middle of the night if we need something. And I'm pretty sure I can call first thing in the morning if I need a drop of milk.
Many of my neighbours still rent their house from the local council. Does that make me better than them because I own my house? Most certainly NOT. If anything it makes us all the more equal. We all live in the same street and have made our family lives in the same vicinity. Much of my work takes me around the local area, county, country and indeed sometimes further afield. I've met some amazing people and in recent years I met many contemporary music stars. I've hung out with Eric Bell (Thin Lizzy)...I've chatted with Bryan Adams...and I've had the banter with Sinead O'Connor. As for trad musicians worldwide, I've lost count of those I've interviewed and gotten to know. But at the end of all this, I return home to my little abode in that Council Estate. That abode that I call home. That abode that is surrounded by great neighbours and the abode I don't plan on leaving anytime soon.
Being a Mum in this situation was never easy. It made me more determined that ever to ensure my boys were educated to the highest degree. The youngest boy is preparing for his college education next year and the elder two have done theirs. But that's not the only education that I've encouraged in them. Perhaps the most important education they have gotten is that they know never to judge another person.
Word to the not so wise....never judge a book by it's cover and never just a person by where they live.

GMcC